Dealing with Insecurities

Once you embrace your value, talents, and strengths, it neutralises when others think less of you.” – Rob Liano.

On a personal level my father left when I was very little, just 6 years old. I was so busy falling in love with my tap dancing shoes and ballet at that age that I hadn’t noticed the breakdown of my parents marriage. So when this big fight broke out at home in the middle of the night I remember being incredible frightened and afraid to come out of my bedroom. This huge fight led to my father leaving for good, my world spun around on me and nothing was ever the same again. I went from being that little innocent girl dancing daily feeling very confident and happy, to a little girl who felt abandoned and feeling a huge loss of a parent that just couldn’t be filled. It wasn’t until my adult years that these deep and old childhood wounds started to come to the service in my choice of relationships and how I handled rejection, and the impact this would make in every area of my life, numerous times.

I want to give anyone reading this a heads up on what to recognise and what steps you can take to ease your way forward in life. If you have been struggling with hitting brick walls in areas of your life due to sticky little insecurities around relationships, then it’s time to get some kind of guidance and therapy to help you heal yourself. So let’s try to get rid of this hang up and give yourself time on this and watch the positive shifts that happen.

If you recognise any of these about yourself and also experienced the loss of a parent, either through divorce or death, feel free to reach out to me or any other therapist you feel drawn to working with. But seek some guidance and help from someone who can help you recover fully.

• Lack of self confidence.
• Lack of trust and faith.
• Lack of ability to accept.
• Fear from past experiences.
• Fear of failure.

Start to work on the following:

1. Affirm your value.
2. Prioritise your needs.
3. Embrace the awkward.
4. Challenge your thoughts.
5. Keep good company.
6. Step away from everything for a while if you feel you need to.
7. Reflect on the good.
8. Make time for fun.

Your road to healing can help you to:

1. Forgive the past. If your insecurities have been shaped by a relative leaving, you didn't do anything wrong. It's not your fault.
2. Accept all of yourself, press the pause button and take a self-assessment.
3. Practice self-approval daily.
4. Develop trust in the moment and remind yourself you are safe and loved.

If you experience jealousy but are not usually a jealous person, here are some strategies that will help you out:

1. Avoid were you can acting on your feelings without giving yourself 24hrs to look a the situation differently and to simply step back and breath.
2. Stay calm and stay vulnerable.
3. Express your jealousy, your emotions and feelings in a soft way.
4. Appreciate Yourself.
5. Heal your wounds with someone you can open up to, talking therapies and relaxing hypnosis are very successful. Just know you need not be alone in your healing.
6. Trust yourself more.

Feel free to listen daily to my hypnosis audio on my YouTube channel that I have recorded specifically to go along with this blog post. Dealing with insecurities.

The link to my Hypnosis audio is on YouTube here: https://youtu.be/oHXDrYFSnW8

(if the link doesn't take you there automatically then just look me up under Justine Hodgson on the Youtube channel and select the, "dealing with insecurities video".

Until next time, be kind to yourself, and get help to heal yourself.

Love Jx